It’s Valentine’s Day and for those who are abused it can feel like a very confusing day with a possibility of gaining some nice love and attention from their abuser, perhaps not knowing whether the other side is going to make an appearance instead.

If you recognise what I am saying then this is for you…

To you lovely lady,

If you haven’t been told this for a while I want to let you know that you are beautiful, you can be who you want and most of all you are worth it.

If I could give you a voucher to be who you want to be, what would you do with the voucher and would you cash it in?

Would you change your hair colour? your clothes? personality? career? or where you live?

What would you change?

I used to dream about a happy family, affection, feeling butterflies in my tummy rather than spikes of anxiety. I didn’t think I would ever feel happiness again but believe it or not, I did!!! I finally got my dream family lifestyle and I feel safe, secure, loved, cared for and I get to make my own choices, wear what I want, travel, speak to who I like and most of all be who I want to be.

I encourage you to take my voucher and to seek your happiness, because you are worth it. I may repeat myself here but I want to tell you that you are beautiful, there are people around you that think a lot of you (whether thats family, friends or a support worker), you are valued. I value you and you deserve the best. You are not alone, there are many who are going through the same and there are many who have found their happiness, you are not alone.

I want to wish you a happy Valentines day and send you all the love I can virtually.

Let me know if you claim your voucher and what plans you have if its safe to do so.

Lots of love and best wishes


A survivor

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  1. Helen

    Happy Valentines Day to you ♥️ Thank you for sharing the love and giving hope to others, what a great post xxx

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you Helen. Happy Valentines Day 😘🌸❤️💕

  2. Helen

    Days like this can be very hard for people in abusive situations, this is a wonderful blog post that will give everyone hope. xx

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you Helen. I agree with you. I found the day challenging so I can imagine so many others today will. X

  3. Karen Cook

    This is absolutely spot on Jenny! Loved reading it, thank you xxx

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      No problem at all – happy Valentine’s Day 😘

  4. Georgina

    Happy Valentines day! Hope everyone has a lovely day xx

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Hope you do as well 🌸😘

  5. Sue Wickstead

    I don’t usually join in on blogs and discussions.
    I often get side tracked.
    I am no longer in that abusive situation (mine was more of a bullying culture in work).
    I had lost my way and felt totally undermined and a low ebb indeed.
    I also have a husband for whom cancer had taken its toll over the many years and he was at a breaking point.
    I put him first and carried on and he and my children watched as I sank to my knees.
    But we have come through, new challenges along my road but they are my challenges and problems and not those forced upon me.
    This letter was recieved with love and hit a spot for me but also made me think of many others too!

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you for sharing Sue, I am glad to hear that you have come through those hard times.
      Sending you much love and wishing you a happy valentines 💕

  6. Dorota

    Jen, what a lovely post! Happy Valentine’s

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Happy Valentines Day Dorota, hope you’ve had a nice day. X

  7. Leanne Marshall

    This is so touching, xxx huggles fabulous girl x

    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you Leanne x


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