Today is Blue Monday and I touched a little on this last week, if you haven’t heard of Blue Monday then in a nutshell it is meant to be the most depressing day of the year. You can find out more on my previous blog post here.

So I am posting the ‘real’ me and I’ve splashed it right on the top image for all to see. I have to say I hate seeing this photo of me and sharing it with you is even more cringe worthy – I am going to explain why.

Let me first of all inform you that in the photo I am in my comfy clothes and I am wearing minimal make up if any at all. I have no foundation on, this is why you can see my current spotty skin. I have had a lack of sleep, perhaps only getting 2-3 hours a night.

I have been walking around every day like this for over a week, I felt that there was no point putting foundation on to cover those spots because it will only aggravate them and take longer to get rid of the outbreak. I am in comfy clothes because I have been unwell and for quite some time, I felt like I deserved to be comfortable with months of struggling in pain. Although I feel like hiding my face and hope not to bump into anyone I know.

So, why do I hate the way I look in this image? I don’t think its actually how I feel? I believe its the world of media and how I feel I ‘should’ look. I should wear tight skinny jeans and I should cover up my spots, we are constantly shown on adverts how to cover up and how to look our best. At the moment I don’t feel like I want to, I am so tired and even taking time to put make up on seems like a rather big job. I wouldn’t usually admit this to anyone, let alone write this in a blog.

BUT… I feel it is important to share this with you. You are allowed to wear comfy clothes and no make-up if you decide. You are still beautiful, you don’t have to be afraid of society or what people think, you are allowed to simply be you. It reminds me of watching Bridget Jones Diary when Colin Firth says “I like you very much. Just as you are”, thats what we need in our lives.

Now you have seen the ‘real’ me, does it change your opinion about me?

I hope the answer to this is not because thats what it should be.

Wherever you are today and whatever you look like on Blue Monday, you are beautiful the way you are.

 

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20 Comments

  1. Helen

    This is my normal, everyday look – no make-up and comfy clothes! Even when I go out, I’ll put on a pair of jeans instead of my tracksuit bottoms. It’s good to rebel against what society expects, and just be yourself. Love this article. x

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      I am glad I am not the only one. Glad you like my blog post Helen. We can be comfy together 🙂 x

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  2. Linda Hill

    You look like a real, warm, intelligent woman and I love your photo. Go you x

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you Linda, that’s lovely of you to say. X

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  3. Bernadette

    Hi.

    This doesn’t change my opinion of you in the slightest. But then I don’t wear makeup at all except going on an evening out. I have had many women say to me – I wish I could go out without make-up. Errr…. you can!! Why is it an unwritten law that women should wear makeup yet we can accept men as they are? I have no idea!! Another inequality that men and women feed 🙄. I know there are comments such as ‘oooh, she’s let herself go’ when a woman is seen without makeup or not dressed to the ‘required’ standard’ but tbh – I really don’t care. I hope you’re feeling better and have more energy soon you’re rocking the ‘this Is me’ look.

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you so much Bernadette. You have really given me the motivation to carry on being the ‘real’ me! I am sure you look fantastic on a night out without make-up, the ‘real’ you.
      Thank you for your well wishes as well. X

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  4. Emma

    You are beautiful inside and out, with and without make-up. You don’t like this picture but look at your beautiful genuine smile, the sparkle in your eyes.

    ♡♡

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Awww Emma that’s lovely of you to say. Thank you. X

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  5. Jackie

    Hi Jennifer, Thanks for posting this. I used to compare myself to others, how they looked, what weight they were, the clothes they had. One day I just stopped. It’s too much energy I’m wasting, I’d rather save my energy for things that really matter to me. I’m very allergic to makeup so I have only worn it a handful of times. Makeup is promoted everywhere! It’s hard to go into stores and see things that don’t fit me either, you know I’m in a wheelchair and sit all day. You will never know how ‘comfy’ something is until you’re sitting in it all day long! I would never go for style over comfort. I think it’s refreshing that you went makeup free for a picture! I think you are beautiful, not because of the makeup you wear. I think you’re beautiful because you are a nice person. In this world, I wished that mattered more than it does. X

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Jackie, thank you for sharing your own thoughts and experiences with us. Thank you for your kind words as well. I agree that it should matter more in this world but at least we know that there are more people that are on the same line than perhaps we thought before. X

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  6. Leanne Marshall

    I Love this post, well done for jumping out of your comfort zone and showing us the real you. It takes bravery and a growing self esteem to do so, beautiful xxx

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you so much Leanne. X

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  7. Sue Wickstead

    Well done you!
    I never wear make-up…. probably too lazy but also have a lot of problems with my eyes so like to keep them clear of make-up.
    Oscar wilde said “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken”
    My only worry (I hate photos of me too) is that I have put on too much weitght over the years.
    but with my sons wedding coming up I am working on this.
    Hope you are feeling better but in the end be yourself!

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you for sharing Sue, I am sure you will look beautiful at your son’s wedding. Jennifer x

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  8. Anna

    I honestly think you look absolutely beautiful in that photo. Before I read your post I thought that – so it’s not a reaction to your words. I am a fan of natural beauty though! You are so right in what you say. I’ve never been big on make up and even more so since having two children. I went to pick up a River Island purchase the other day – hair not even brushed and pulled back and no make up – plus scruffy clothes. As I stood at the counter this man commented on how stunning the two girls and behind the counter looked and I smiled as they really had made an effort and had amazing hair and style, but then I remembered that I was the third woman standing at that cash til but I hadn’t existed for a moment there. I felt a bit embarrassed and then I thought f**k that – more credit to me for walking in that particular shop au natural!! I am a beautiful warrior yeah!!
    I loved this post – thank you 😊

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Anna… What a shallow person and obviously doesn’t see real beauty in front of him. I wouldn’t take any notice. I’m glad you went out and felt like you! Thank you for sharing that with me. X

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  9. Nicki

    No make up and comfy clothes are my life. I used to be fully made up and suited and booted in a flash job. I am now much much happier as I am. The real me and that is emerging underneath too.conform? No- just be you, whatever you is… is beautiful.

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Thank you Nicki. That is lovely of you! Glad to hear that I’m not the only ‘real’ me around. X

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  10. Dorota

    Of course not silly :*
    Jen, you are beautiful with or without make up!
    These days I’d rather have 5mins more in bed than putting the foundation on.
    However if I find a minute, I use the concelear to cover my spots and blemishes even though I don’t care what others think about my look lol
    It’s really sad that all the adverts these days are photoshopped :/
    Thanks for sharing this pic with us x

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    • jenniferlauragilmour

      Yes photo shopping is cheating isn’t it? I suppose it’s like the filters you can get as well.
      Thank you for your thoughts Dorota. X

      Reply

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