Getting through a really tough time, whether it's a sudden, shocking event or a long, drawn-out struggle, is a huge accomplishment. But even after the worst is over, that quiet period afterwards can be just as hard. Learning to get back into the swing of things and...
It's been a while since I shared some of my written work and this is something I put together when I was journaling and reflecting. Controlled Controlled Silent Sitting Fear Longing Confusion Self-Debate Short spiral Reflection Starving Disturbing Changing...
Fashion and style often get dismissed as surface-level concerns. Yet for many survivors of trauma, the way you choose to present yourself to the world carries far more meaning than a passing trend. Clothing, jewellery and self-expression become tools of healing, small...
Last night, I came across a photo of me and my dog, Molly. It brought back a flood of emotions that I had pushed down for a long time. Molly wasn’t just a dog. She was my comfort, my constant companion and my safe place during a time when I was isolated. When I was...
I never thought I would share that getting tattoos would become a therapy for me after years growing up being encouraged to keep my skin bare and it being less socially acceptable. But my first tattoo was a result of the separation from the abusive person I had been...
If you've read my latest book Turning Trauma Into Triumph then you will know that I am back at university studying BSc Psychology. This has led me to find a love in Substack and share this part of my journey over there.What is Substack? Substack is a platform that...
Last year I was honoured to be commissioned to work on the design and structure of a workbook journal that goes alongside a domestic abuse programme for vulnerable mothers built by DVACT-PAI. I was delighted to hear how happy they were with the work I did to support...
The day has finally arrived, it's publication day for a book I am incredibly proud of. Today's the day! My new book, Turning Trauma Into Triumph: The Path from Pain to Purpose, is officially available. This book is a deeply personal collection of articles and blog...
I'm so excited to be sharing with you a project I have been working on this year, Turning Trauma Into Triumph. Over a decade has passed since I fled the abuse I endured in my own home with the person who said they loved me. I'm marking it with something different but...
I've been reflecting on my past relationships over the last couple of weeks and alongside journalling I wrote this small piece, I feel it may expand in time but it could just freeze in time and stay as it is. I could apply this to a few of my relationships in which...
It’s time to be brutally honest today and talk about my journey into long-term therapy, bear with me. In August of 2023, I finally managed to secure long-term therapy for my CPTSD and I’ve been quiet with regards to writing about domestic abuse, almost silent....
PTSD Pretty Polly. (1988 - 2010) Say goodbye to Pretty Polly The lass from the Co-op store She went and joined the Army And they sent her off to War Off to far Afghanistan To set the people free Pretty Polly's was blown up By a roadside I.E.D. The armour saved her...
As we step into the new year, many of us are setting goals and aspirations to make the most of the year ahead. Confidence is the key that unlocks our potential and empowers us to reach for our dreams. Finding confidence is especially crucial for individuals who have...
This year I have had three different major surgeries; In January I had a full hysterectomy, in June I had a right ACL reconstruction plus a meniscus disc re-anchored and finally last week I had a left ACL reconstruction. All three have felt very different on my own...
Going back almost a decade, there was no law in place to support me as someone who had experienced a coercive controlling relationship for several years. I did however receive the local support of Hull DAP and had my very own support worker, without this support I...
Welcoming a guest blog post today. In the bustling landscape of New Jersey, the pursuit of mental well-being is an endeavor that requires personalized care, compassion, and expertise. At True Life Care Mental Health Services, we understand the unique challenges...
Yesterday I started therapy and I am trying to remain hopeful. I have experienced counselling when I was in an abusive relationship around 11/12 years ago, I went again around 5/6 years ago with a completely different service. I found that it did help but my first...
s or Making money online isn’t always easy - especially when you are competing with the whole of the online world, which is why you need to make sure that you stand out from the crowd. Most people spend more time online now than they do asleep, and it’s important you...
It's been a while since I have had a guest on my blog but when I saw Rebecca Jane's wisdom on Facebook, I had to invite her to be a guest. It's not love, it's trauma! Working as a relationship therapist, and analysing why divorce rates today are so high, I have come...
The 20th is almost here and I am excited about my first childrens book finally having it's publication day. It does still link to domestic abuse but it concentrates on healthy relationships. Let's get into it: The Funky Frecks is a children's book for KS2...
In 2021 I experienced a feeling of being outer body despite being in my body. I recognised my emotions but didn’t feel them, my mood was up and down, I made decisions that I wouldn’t normally choose. I went through this for almost two months and I can look back and...
The new year is the perfect time to revamp your wardrobe and consider who you want to be for the year ahead. With so much exciting inspiration to choose from, it certainly is the year to experiment with new textures, colours and styles. Here is a guide on the top...
Chances are, you’ve heard about “That Girl” it’s a TikTok trend that’s all about becoming productive, focusing on your fitness and health, and giving yourself a chance to become a better you. While there is some debate about this trend and aesthetic, there is no doubt...
Making friends can be tough, especially when you move to a new country. It takes time and effort to get to know people, and it can be difficult to find others who share your interests. Coming out of an abusive relationship and moving accross the country back to my...
If you’ve struggled to stay fit since having a child, you are far from alone. It is a situation that millions of women find themselves in. Sadly, it is a difficult cycle to break. While it may feel like you are facing your Mt Everest right now, focusing on the right...